My mind continually buzzes with thoughts:
What should I do with my life? What should I eat for breakfast? What should I do right now?
Since stopping real estate, I’ve been writing these freelance stories for an online website that will remain nameless but is often derided as a content farm. This means that I write quick, short, hopefully easy stories. If I write enough, it will pay the bills until I figure out my next step.
Figuring out my life’s purpose, for me, has always been tied to a career. When I got sick, I spoke with a social worker who said that some people see their life’s purpose in how they treat people. Meaning, they treat people with compassion and that’s is their life’s purpose.
That’s a nice idea, but I still want to be successful. Trouble is, I still haven’t defined success. Is it money? Fame? Leadership capability? Happiness? I see happiness as an outcropping of success, but not necessarily an end in itself.
And so I ponder: Should I be a yoga teacher? A nutritionist? Get a job as an executive assistant in some job so that I can have benefits?
My mind races and sometimes I feel panicked because I have no idea what to do. When the panic sets in, my mind races faster. I worry that I won’t find a job that I like. That I will never figure out what I’m *supposed* to do with my life.
Then, this morning, I flowed. Silly, normal flow. I was about to make breakfast, but wanted to change. I got the pants I wanted to wear clean from the dryer. Then I realized, “I might as well take all the clean clothes out now and put them away so I don’t have to do it later.”
Oddly, my mind resisted the idea. Just do it later.
This sounds so mundane, I know. But that’s the point, I guess. Because I had an epiphany —
If I just took care of things as they needed to be done and not in an order dictated by my mind, life would be a state of flow.
During the day, if I blogged when the time came for that, researched potential new stories for freelancing when the time came for that, ate when the time came for that, then these things would take care of themselves.
The mind resists us until we form the habit.
I love getting into a made bed at night. I love looking at a made bed through the day.
But I’m often too lazy in the morning to make my bed. It tortures me every time I look at it as I think, “I’ll do it later.”
For the past couple of days, I started making the bed in the morning after feeding my dog, whose house (kennel) is beside it.
Today, I made the bed without even having to think about it. If we appropriately train ourselves, get ourselves into the habit of doing the things we really want but our minds convince us otherwise, then we can stop planning and let it unfold.
In the meantime, just let it unfold and tell your mind, “shhhhhh.”